Ylang Ylang
Helps balance hormones, promotes healthy skin and hair, and is calming. The name ylang ylang means "flower of flowers." It is also traditional remedy for infections skin diseases.
Essential Oils
Rose
Expensive.
Neroli oil
Can help to relieve tension and is said to be an aphrodisiac.
Clary sage
Patchouli
Jasmine
Considered aphrodisiacal and relaxing, it also has a rejuvenative effect.
Black pepper
Cardamon
Sandalwood
Lemon Verbena
I have not seen it in the literature, but I know a woman for whom this works very well.
Safety
Essential oils should not come into contact with condoms, as the oil may damage them and cause them to be ineffective.
Be sure to spot test the oils and test for allergies or skin sensitivities. Nothing will ruin the mood like a rash, bad itch, or pain. Of course, if your partner is into pain, try some peppermint on the genitals.
Be very careful about using the oils near eyes. Carefully consider where to put the diffuser.
Not all oils are edible.
Carrier oils
For romance, scent is extremly important. Women have a keener sense of smell than men. A carrier oil I do not recommend is sesame oil, because it has its own scent that will combine with the essential oil scent.
Methods of use
Use your imagination,or try some of these suggestions.
- Wear the oils as a perfume to create a sensual mood.
- Diffuse the oils.
- Make up a massage blend and use it on your partner.
- Aromatic bathing.
- Use only edible oils that can be licked off.
Essential Oil Books and references
- The Complete Illustrated Guide to Aromatherapy, by Julia Lawless, Barnes & Noble Inc., 1997
- 500 Formulas for Aromatherapy, Carol Schiller and David Schiller,Sterling Publishing Co., Inc., 1994
- The Complete Book of Essintial Oils & Aromatherapy, by Valerie Ann Worwood, New World Library, 1991
- The Illustrated Encyclopedia of Healing Remedies, by C. Norman Shealy MD, PhD, HarperCollinsPublishers, 1998
- The healing Intelligence of Essential Oils, By Kurt Schnaubelt, Ph.D. Healing Arts Press, 2011